My note from the universe addressed a disturbing habit with which I’m very familiar. It said:
“Rebecca, it does little good to say you want something and then “just in case” prepare to do without.”
What makes us do that? Decide that we want something, perhaps even envision it and determine that you’re going to do whatever you can to make it a reality . . . then almost immediately begin working on a “plan B,” maybe even to the point of saying to ourselves, “if I don’t get it, though, this is what I’ll do . . . .”
Someone, somewhere said once: hope for the best but prepare for the worst (I think it might have been Ben Franklin ~ oh well, you can’t always be wise, I guess). Far be it from me to disagree with the wise ones who’ve gone before . . . okay, maybe not so far. Because I think this is really bad advice. In fact, my revised quote would be “hope for the best, expect the best, prepare for the best.” Period.
This is an issue some of my dearest loved ones struggle with ~ and small wonder: they learned it, at least a significant part of it, from me. And I learned it from my parents, who learned it from theirs, who learned it from theirs ~ all the way back to the cavemen. We absorb this stuff from birth – the habit of hedging your bets “just in case.”
Like so many negatives in our lives, this habitual preparing of a contingency plan or a fallback position (and look at how many phrases we have for it!) is fear based ~ which is why it’s such a hard habit to break. And it’s self-perpetuating. Having hoped for the best but prepared for the worst in the past ~ and guess what? the worst showed up ~ some of us actually stop with the hoping and just expect the worst from the outset. The logic is: If you don’t try, you won’t fail, you won’t be hurt, and you won’t be disappointed.
Stop that, too.
What if you did it the other way around? What if you started expecting the best outcome, started focusing on that to the exclusion of all “just in case”s, started stepping on those contingency-plan thoughts as soon as they came into the light (like the little cockroaches they are!)? What if you started thinking, instead, about all the ways you’re better off now than this time last year, or two years ago, or three?
The thoughts you think and continue to think for just 17 seconds or more, draw more thoughts of the same vibrational energy ~ particularly emotionally charged thoughts. Seriously. Pay attention next time you’re upset or angry and see how many more upset and angry things occur to you the longer you let it go on. Or just think back to the last time.
See what I mean? Okay, then ~ jettison all that sludge as quickly as you can and turn your thoughts to what you really want: love, security, serenity, and whatever it is that delivers those actively positive emotions to you.
Pull up the images of those things in whatever form they already exist in your life and pay attention to THAT for 18 seconds, with the same kind of emotional intensity. I promise you, the same process will ensue; you will draw more thoughts of the multitude of things you have to be thankful for ~ helping to ease your heart (you can actually feel it in your body as well, how you can suddenly take a deep breath), helping you to calm, helping you to get back to trusting that you will not only have what you need when you need it, but even more.
Reality ~ it’s all in the way you choose to see it.
Who knew? (pssst: you did. You just forgot. That’s okay; I just reminded you. 🙂 )
You’ve got this.
See you on the beach.